September 30, 2005
Welcome!
My well-wishers have urged me "to allow comments" so that there may be a faster interaction. So, this is it! Welcome, comments!
Please share your sincere views in the wider interests of children and parents!
Thanks.
September 17, 2005
On a number of occasions, I am asked by young parents: Is counselling really required for present-day parents and children? Do they really need some sort of "advice" or guidance? If yes, why?
The young parents feel they are well-educated. They are well-read. I have also observed that many of them have read books on parenthood before they come to me. They feel they are 'knowledgeable' and 'capable' of "handling" the problems of parenthood.
Dear parents! Remember that the complexities of relationship between the parents and the child are growing out of proportions now. The number of issues involved is also increasing.
Few years back, they were related to studies, career, pocket-money, friendship, attitudinal or behavioural problems etc. Now status awareness, publicity craze, countless external temptations, competitivity, various pressures have also been added.
Most of the issues earlier were unidimensional. Now they have become multi-dimensional and inter-related. The issues used to stem out of a single or a couple of causes. If a child was not performing, you would probe: Problem of concentration? Psychological or physical problem? A few counselling sessions could resolve the issue.
What is the situation today? A child is not performing in studies. What could be the factors? Family disturbances? Hostile environment at school? TV viewing? Friendship? Bad company? Involvement in relationship? Alluring temptations? Or combination of some of these factors? How many factors could come to surface!
The parents need to understand these facts.
The young parents feel they are well-educated. They are well-read. I have also observed that many of them have read books on parenthood before they come to me. They feel they are 'knowledgeable' and 'capable' of "handling" the problems of parenthood.
Dear parents! Remember that the complexities of relationship between the parents and the child are growing out of proportions now. The number of issues involved is also increasing.
Few years back, they were related to studies, career, pocket-money, friendship, attitudinal or behavioural problems etc. Now status awareness, publicity craze, countless external temptations, competitivity, various pressures have also been added.
Most of the issues earlier were unidimensional. Now they have become multi-dimensional and inter-related. The issues used to stem out of a single or a couple of causes. If a child was not performing, you would probe: Problem of concentration? Psychological or physical problem? A few counselling sessions could resolve the issue.
What is the situation today? A child is not performing in studies. What could be the factors? Family disturbances? Hostile environment at school? TV viewing? Friendship? Bad company? Involvement in relationship? Alluring temptations? Or combination of some of these factors? How many factors could come to surface!
The parents need to understand these facts.
September 10, 2005
Hello!
In the early phase of life, I closely observed different aspects of human relationships as I served the marketing division of a multi-national. For 15 years, I got ample opportunities to interact with different people and study the inter-personal relationships, the behavioural science and the psychology.
The next phase. For last 15 years now, I am in the field of academics and counselling. I have been counselling youngsters as well as their parents and grand-parents. There have been face-to-face sessions and tele-counselling also. I have been periodically reviwing the cases and the records. It helps me in subsequent sessions.
It's no surprise then that youngsters and elders, who know me, are thrillrd to learn that I am publishing this Blog. They have responded with phone-calls and mails. Some of them met in person to express their feelings. In the course, they also unveiled parts of their life and problems not told to anyone so far. Thank you for your trust and faith!
Fifteen years is not a short span. The facts that emerge are shocking for the society and for the mentors, too. The complexities of parent-child relationship are growing out of proportions. How can I sum up what I have observed?
The child is being dragged by more and more temptations. The parents are obliged to spend lesser quality time with the child. The dialogue is diminishing in content and meaning. The generation gap is widening by leaps and bounds.
We shall shortly discuss in details.
The next phase. For last 15 years now, I am in the field of academics and counselling. I have been counselling youngsters as well as their parents and grand-parents. There have been face-to-face sessions and tele-counselling also. I have been periodically reviwing the cases and the records. It helps me in subsequent sessions.
It's no surprise then that youngsters and elders, who know me, are thrillrd to learn that I am publishing this Blog. They have responded with phone-calls and mails. Some of them met in person to express their feelings. In the course, they also unveiled parts of their life and problems not told to anyone so far. Thank you for your trust and faith!
Fifteen years is not a short span. The facts that emerge are shocking for the society and for the mentors, too. The complexities of parent-child relationship are growing out of proportions. How can I sum up what I have observed?
The child is being dragged by more and more temptations. The parents are obliged to spend lesser quality time with the child. The dialogue is diminishing in content and meaning. The generation gap is widening by leaps and bounds.
We shall shortly discuss in details.
